The 6 Nations kicks off tomorrow and I can’t wait. This year the
tournament is wide open – Wales may be favourites, but have tough trips away to
England and Ireland to overcome, whilst England are hoping to build on a
promising Autumn Series.
Whoever you support, many of us who have grown up playing rugby have
found that it is the best game in the world. Apart from being good for fitness
and great fun to play, here’s 3 things rugby has taught me about leadership:
1)
Take your mates with you
You see it all the time. It starts so well. The players go through the
phases. The prop takes the ball up, takes the tackle, goes to ground and two of
his mates behind him come straight through and remove the opposition,
protecting the ball and their teammate.
But then it happens.
At some point, someone picks up the ball, runs away from his teammates
and into trouble. He is inevitably tackled (unless he’s Jonah Lomu) and there
is no one behind him to protect him. The ball is taken, the player is left with
a bruised ego and a bruised head and the opposition have a platform to attack.
Rugby rewards the team. And good leaders know that they need right hand
men, men who are there when the going gets tough. Men who are there when the opposition
is swarming around them. Men who are there when you drop the ball and risk
losing all that you have built.
When a man gets isolated this happens all too often. He stops being
accountable and there’s no one to warn him away from the flirtatious new work
colleague. He forgets to have fun with his mates and work consumes him. He
neglects to get advice on the new car and yes, a month later the clutch has
gone.
In short, leaders should only ever go into battle with faithful men one
step behind them.
Take care, brethren, that there not be in any one of you an evil, unbelieving heart that falls away from the living God. But encourage one another day after day, as long as it is still called "Today," so that none of you will be hardened by the deceitfulness of sin. (Hebrews 3:12-13)
2) Respect the referee. And each other
Rugby taught me from a young age that people have something to give,
even when their appearance makes me doubt (the fat kid in my class giving me a
welcome when I tried to run through him is one instance I remember - I think).
Whether you have power, pace, jumping prowess, a Jason Robinsonesque side-step,
handling or technical skills you can have an impact in a rugby team. Tall or
short, stocky or lanky there is a place for everyone.
In today’s world this is often not so. We are taught to demean others
who do not fit the social mould. We fight our corner at work – even colleagues
become the enemy and we gossip and smear them to elevate ourselves. We are
taught to disrespect others in order to build up both ourselves and our team.
But real leaders, leaders with integrity, value their team and look to bring
out their gifts and talents, letting them loose on the opposition.
And as we know, as well as respecting each other, rugby players respect
the referee. Ok, you may get a bad decision. It may even cost you the match.
But players don’t hound referees, the crowd doesn’t sing about the referees
private habits and coaches don’t come out spitting blood, blaming their defeat
on anyone but themselves.
Leaders must respect people over and above whether they think they have
been wronged, over and above a win or a loss, and over and above their own
pride. It is as they treat people with dignity that we they will be credible,
self-controlled leaders with a sense of perspective on what’s really important
in life.
3)
Clean you own kit
Leaving your dirty kit to mum to wash may be ok when you are a kid and
you’re nursing 10 broken bones when you get home. But when you’re in your 20s or
30s it is not cool. You may have been the big man, scored the winning try, made
a heroic try-saving tackle. But you can wash your kit. You should never think
you’re too good for that.
Real leaders do the dirty work. They may get attention and adulation
out there, but real leaders don’t then go home and abuse their wife or refusing
to help her with the kids. They don’t go to church and refuse to clean the
toilets when no-one else is willing.
No. Real leaders set an example whether they are being watched or not.
Whether they are being rewarded or not. Whether the work is glamorous or not.
Because real leaders know that they are submitting to their real leader, Jesus
Christ, who rewards for the small acts of obedience, both seen and unseen.
So, I look forward to a great tournament and may the best team (England
obviously) win.