Monday 11 August 2014

Frozen – why we shouldn’t just Let It Go


In the months since Frozen was released I have not heard one person sound a cautionary note. Not one.

In fact, most people I know love it. Their kids love it.

So what I am about to say means I am either mad, or fast becoming the odd one out. This may put me at serious odds with my best friends.

There are many great themes in this movie, of family values and even, some argue, a Christian allegory of self-sacrificing love.

Despite not having watched the film, my 5 and 3 year old often belt out the signature tune ‘Let it Go’ from the top of their lungs. It sounds like a catchy tune.

It sounds, well, harmless.

Right?

Let’s take a look at some of the lyrics:

“It's time to see what I can do
To test the limits and break through
No right, no wrong, no rules for me I'm free!

Let it go, let it go
I am one with the wind and sky
Let it go, let it go
You'll never see me cry!

Here I stand
And here I'll stay
Let the storm rage on!

My power flurries through the air into the ground
My soul is spiralling in frozen fractals all around”
Writer(s): Kristen Anderson-Lopez, Emanuel Kiriakou, Robert J. Lopez
Copyright: Wonderland Music Company Inc., Walt Disney Music Company

Gods of our Culture


In the words above, we see 3 gods of our culture espoused:

1) Autonomy above all

‘No right, no wrong, no rules for me I’m free’.

Our secular culture indoctrinates us and our kids to believe that my autonomy is the most important and valuable thing I can seek.

Indeed, it is more important than my responsibilities if it means I find satisfaction, to ‘be who I am’, free of people suppressing my inner power and creativity.

This is the creed of our culture.

We see it all around us.

And we see it in this cute kid’s movie and theme tune that my 3 year old sings.

The Bible on the other hand teaches us that responsibility is more important. Our actions will always impact others, and rather than looking to our own needs, we can teach our kids to put the needs of others first (Philippians 2:4).


2) New Age ideas

I am one with the wind and sky’.

This is an increasingly popular belief; that humans are co-creators, God-like, inherently good and one and the same with creation. The language of the New Age is all over Frozen – ‘energy’, ‘oneness’, ‘harmony’, ‘potential’, ‘cleansing’ and ‘consciousness’.

By contrast, the Bible says we are created beings made in God’s image made to glorify him and enjoy his creation rather than be mastered by it (Genesis 1:26-27; 2:15; Isaiah 44:24).

3) You are powerful

My power flurries through the air’

The message ‘you are powerful’ screams at us through TV adverts. ‘Impossible Is Nothing’, ‘Just Do It’, ‘We Do It Your Way’, ‘Because I’m Worth It’, ‘Power For Your Control’ etc etc (extra points if you can remember which product these match to*).

Of course, we need to teach our kids that yes, they are powerful. That they can do damage unless they learn to be responsible with their words and possessions.

But our culture takes this too far. We are telling our kids they can do anything - the reality is we are finite human beings who need to depend on the power of our creator and sustainer rather than elevate ourselves to the position of God himself.

Big eyes, small waists


So in addition to the women with impossibly large eyes, small waists and perfect make-up which distorts my daughters view of how she should look, this film gives us a song that captures a world-view advocated by Frozen which should concern Christians.


It’s not working


These cultural creeds are not harmless.

They are at the centre of the degradation of our culture, the undermining of marriage and stable families, broken friendships, shattered dreams.

Our kids need to know it’s not all cute and cuddly and happily ever after, but that it’s a worldview leads away from Jesus to elevate themselves as their own god.

And it’s not working.

I’m not an advocate of making our kids into social misfits who don’t fit in.

What I am saying is that we need discernment.

We need to have our eyes open to the propaganda all around us churned out by our cultural leaders (i.e. the media, advertisers and filmmakers) who want our kids to believe something.

So how can we do this? Here’s some ideas

1) Ask yourself questions


Such as:

What messages does this film/song want me and my kids to believe?

What truth do I see in the Bible that confronts these messages?

Am I keeping my edge, believing that I am meant to live as if my hope is in God rather than in all that our culture hopes for?

2) Ask your kids questions


Such as:

What do the words of the song mean?

Should we indulge our appetites and passions without regard for right and wrong as Elsa says?

What are the consequences of Elsa’s decisions for herself? For others?

What does the God have to say about this?
To do this we need to watch these films (preferably before they watch it and then with them).
We need to be ready to help explain what it is they are seeing, both the good parts (undoubtedly there are some good messages in this film) as well as the more worrying.

3) Point them to Christ


And we need to point them to Christ – the one who is all powerful, the One who created us for relationship with Him, and the One who does set rules of right and wrong for our benefit and happiness. Who calls us to give it all to Him, rather than let it go.

Don’t be duped


Let’s face it, our culture’s message to ‘Let it Go’ just isn’t working.

So let’s not let our kids be duped into thinking it is - just because their screen hero believes and sings it.

After all, our kids will only be duped if we are. 


*Adidas, Nike, Burger King, L’Oreal, Alfa Romea



Image credit Elsa from Frozen © Walt Disney
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Sunday 3 August 2014

I got a parking ticket for being 5 minutes late. And it made me mad…




5 minutes late!

I couldn’t believe it. Coming out of the swimming pool with the kids I could see his hat above the cars. He can’t be can he?

But he was.

As the ticket was slapped on my car window I ran towards him with a pleading look on my face. ‘Come on mate. I’m only 5 minutes out, any chance you can give me a break?’

To cut a long story short, the answer was a firm ‘no’.

And I was mad.

Mad with myself.

Mad with the guy for being so pernickety.

Just 5 minutes! Why couldn’t he be reasonable? I’m not going to pay £50 for being 5 minutes late! I don’t deserve this! I could use that money for something for more important rather than line Swale County Council’s pockets! I’m going to appeal. And if they reject it, I’ll take it all the way. I’m a big man, and I can take on a small claims court!

To be fair, the guy was reasonable. He said to say in my appeal that I’d been held up in the pool and he’d put a word in for me.

Even so, I drove off in a rage. The kids didn’t know what had hit us!

But then, I stopped.

And I realised that I’m still learning some lessons.

 

I’m not a murderer, but…


As I considered my reaction, deep down I knew I was in the wrong.

However I think about it, I agreed to get back to my car by 14:58. I knew the rules, they were stated clearly. And arriving at 15:03, I was late. I’d missed the mark. Whether by 5 minutes or 5 hours I was in the wrong. And the penalty was the same.


And it made me think of the Gospel.
 
The Bible says that I’ve missed the mark. I’m not a bad person. I like to think that often I might have missed it by 5 minutes rather than a murderer’s 5 hours.
 
What is more, God’s law is far holier and important than Swale County Council’s! So much so, that the penalty for not hitting God’s mark is eternal separation from him, not just £50.

And it’s payable by all.

Unless, of course, someone pays it for us.

How grateful I am that Jesus has paid it for me!

 

I’m a specialist in self-justification


I am good at this. There’s always an excuse.

‘It wasn’t my fault’.

I’m a child of my culture, which specialises in telling me that it’s not my fault. To look for the culprit. In my case it was:

The kids being too slow.
The person blocking a cubicle.
The swimming pool clock that was fast.
The parking attendant was a jobsworth.

In fact, I loved the attendant’s suggestion that I say I was delayed in the pool. That could be my way out! After all, it’s my first time visiting this place. I could put together a nicely worded letter outlining how I was delayed.

I wouldn’t even need to lie, I could just be economical with the truth. And it could save me £50.

Surely it’s worth it?

My ‘It’s not my fault’ reaction also applies to my relationship with God. When I’ve done wrong I’ve got the excuses lined up:

I was tired.
She antagonised me.
He started it.

The bottom line is, it is my responsibility. In my life, if I don’t hit the mark, then the responsibility is mine, and so the punishment is just.

If I’m tempted to be economical with the truth here, then what does it say about what I’m prepared to do before God?

But God cannot be mocked. He is watching.

How much better is it for me to lose £50 than to lie and grieve God, who has given everything to save me?

I hate being exposed for being wrong


I hate it. I hate someone saying that I’ve done something wrong. I’ll rage, I’ll rant and I’ll try and cover it up. Because it’s embarrassing.

Why? Because I’m respectable. Because I’m capable and together. I’m a church leader for goodness sake! I have an image to maintain here!

But of course, I get things wrong just like anyone. The fact is, some of us are better at hiding it than others.

When we do wrong in secret – looking at some porn, a white lie no-one will notice and so on – it can be tempting to think ‘I’m ok. No-one can see. It doesn’t do any harm’.

But it is destructive.
It gives us false security.
Because God knows.

And because we not only deceive ourselves, but others too. In the end it will destroy our relationships and even entire church communities.

How many of us are willing to be open with our weaknesses?

How many of us can handle being wrong and ask for forgiveness?

I believe that the depth of our communal relationships would be transformed overnight if we were more open, honest and vulnerable with each other.
If we repented of our pride and pointed to our desperate need for Christ rather than our respectable, capable, knowledgeable selves.

 
You know the funny thing? When I went to pay my fine the computer hasn’t even registered it!

The irony…
 
 
 
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